Q: My husband is in Iraq at the moment, and my mother in law is really missing him. She keeps taking my kids away from me, insists on picking them up from school, and bringing them to her place at weekends and because of this, I barely see my kids anymore, and it hurts when they complain about having to come home because she spoils them to pieces...... I understand she needs company, and misses her son, and my kids are her only link, but I need some time to spend alone with my kids.............How do I not hurt her?? What should I do? Am I just being petty? Do I sound Jealous? Thanks
A: I am happy to see the compassionate way you asked this question. You must really care about her feelings. It is sad to see the abrupt cruel people that are giving you answers here. I would be willing to bet they don't have adult children. As grandmas sometimes our grandchildren can give us such great comfort. I know when I lost my father the sweet innocent pure love I received from my grandchildren really helped me through it. Simply, it just makes you feel good. You should talk to your children alone and tell them how much you miss daddy and really need them to spend more time with mommy. Tell your mother-in-law that you and the kids have plans when she wants them. Or tell her you are going to such and such and invite her to come with. Pick her up and drop her off at home. This way her time will be more limited. I congratulate you on considering her feelings too. Our children mean the world to us as children or adults. You sound like a considerate daughter-in-law. How refreshing!