Q: so i have had this friend for a long time...like 5 years. shes like really skinny and is sometimes like "oh i look so fat" just for me to say "oh your not fat, shut up." becuase im not the skinniest person in the world. other days she can be like "oh i look so good today" and then tell me my hair looks frizzy or something. shes always like comparing us. i got a bracelet, then she gets the same one 3 months later and tells me mine is scratched and to look at how shiny hers is. all she has been doing is trying to get into the popular crowd. she acts really desperate sometimes and people tell me stories about her coming over to the cirle of popular people and asking what they were talking about. my other friend whos in that group told me she once sat down in the group and asked and my other friend was about to explain it to her when she insisted another more popular girl in the group tell her instead. i could go on forever with her making fun of how i look. we have dance class with the group she wants to be in. one day popular girl told her a secret right in front of me and i liek any normal person was like "what did you say" and so the girl asked my friend if she could trust me and my friend who has told me everything was like "oh, i dont know." when i asked her about it later my friend was like..."stop wanting to know everyhting that goes on with me and them" (the popular people) im pretty sure shes in her own little world. the popular people dont even like her that much and nothing relaly "goes on between them." for 3 of their bdays where they asked not give presents...she gave all 3 like double what she gave me. what should i do??? and to to it all off...now shes spreading it around that im conceeded and want to be like her. 10 points best answer!! srry it was long. i have confronted her infront of her new "friends" and she only spread around that i "yelled at her." she also told me i dance like a robot which really upset me and i explained this to her and shes like "oh...i just said it to make you feel better." yeah that didnt work. she thinks shes the most beautiful person on the planet and shes really not. its hard ending a friendship when we still had fun times when we werent at school. wow you all have really good answers...i dont know whos to pick as the best yet
A: I am sorry you are having a really difficult time with this person. She is not your friend. But I have something to tell you which may surprise you. All these nasty things she is doing (comparing herself to you, whispering things to other people in the "popular crowd") ... she is doing all these things to hide the fact that she is very unhappy, very unsure of herself and very insecure. Oddly enough the more successful a person is at giving you the illusion of how popular or successful they are, the unhappier they REALLY are. You are doing fine. Just carry on being yourself. Take pride in yourself. Consider that she is lucky to still have you as her friend ... you don't need her nearly as much as she needs you!