Q: I have a great guy, usually...the first time i found he was looking at porn i got real upset..he promised he would not do it again. later we fought and he did it again! then he saw how it upset me and said he wouldnt do it anymore. then today I found a box of porn and dvds. he said he didnt even remember he had that old porn...but i get the feeling its just a lie and i believe he will keep looking at it sometimes. i want to not get as upset as i do because i know its going to happen..but yet i just cant seem to deal with it. HELP
A: I don't know what to tell you, it's honestly a way of life. Guys just do that your gonna have to deal with it. My husband explained for the most part it's a way of keeping things fresh. He's not cheating on me but he is simply looking outside the box so when he does come back to me it won't seem such a chore. Make Sense? He's only lying cuz he knows it hurts you and it's not going to stop. And if you know it won't stop why are you making him lie to you by saying he won't do that anymore. Just tell him how you feel about it and make him tell you how he feels and why he does it. That might help you a little.